Do you want to build confidence in your child?
Is your child’s behaviour giving you concern?
When you talk to your child
do you feel they are not listening to you?
The Goulding SleepTalkTM for Children process is a two-minute gift you give your children that lasts a lifetime.
SleepTalkTM is for parents who are looking for a simple, non-intrusive process that increases a child’s self-esteem and confidence. It also helps with behaviour changes for the better. The parents give positive suggestions to their children about general or specific problems soon after they have fallen asleep.
It is easy to learn, and takes the parents only a few minutes to do daily at bedtime and it cannot be ‘done wrong’. It is safe, ethical and positive for all the family.
The process is like developing an emotional Firewall against negative suggestions, which a child is confronted with everywhere, even from itself. It is a bit like a computer’s Firewall, which protects it from outside interference and damage.
Once you build the process into your routine it becomes second nature and all the family, parents, siblings and the child in question benefit from the process.
Joane Goulding, who lives in Melbourne, devised this programme, in the 1970s, to help her daughter Michelle who was born with cerebral palsy and a speech impairment due to dyspraxia of the throat. This was not diagnosed until she was 7 years old. The doctors told Joane that Michelle would only cope in an institutional environment. However, she would not accept this and being a trained hypnotherapist and knowing the power of the unconscious mind she devised the SleepTalkTM programme, which helped Michelle to walk, talk and be happy. Michelle is, in fact, now happily married.
|I feel honoured to have been trained by Joane to be an Accredited Goulding SleepTalkTM consultant.
Please get in touch with me for more information about how SleepTalkTM can benefit your children.
The SleepTalkTM Process has been used for over 30 years and is recognised by many proffessional organisations, which can be found on Joane’s website at the link on the logo above.
Joane’s Philosphy –
“Children are our future, it is their right to develop and grow in a happy, harmonious and positive mental environment.”
I totally agree with this and that is why I am so passionate about the SleepTalkTM Process.
Ages of children with whom SleepTalkTM can be used –
2 – 13 years old is best.
However, I have worked with a family who used it on their 15-year-old daughter very successfully to improve her confidence at school and making new friends.
Areas SleepTalkTM can help with –
- Building Confidence and improving self-esteem
- Anxiety, Stress, Fear, Phobias, Trauma
- Sibling rivalry
- Aggression and Behaviour management
- Education, Study, Concentration, Memory
- Health Issues such as asthma, skin, eating disorders, constipation
- Improving Creativity and Expression (speech)
- Improving Sporting skills
- Improving Co-ordination & Physical Abilities
- Achieving goals
- Habits such as bed-wetting, nail-biting
- Nightmares or Terrors
- Sleep problems
Emma & Steve Johnson, Old Coulsdon, Surrey – used the SleepTalk™ process for both their children, their son aged 9 and their daughter aged 6, to improve their confidence. I worked with Emma on her own. However, she taught her husband the process and they took turns in doing the nightly routine. Emma sent me this testimonial.
My 9 year old son has loved his kickboxing class ever since he was 3. His natural perfectionist tendencies meant that he progressed so quickly, advanced so far through his grades, and did so well in competitions that he was moved up to a class for older children. He then suddenly lost his confidence in sparring with children who were bigger, stronger and had longer reach. He started getting upset, crying, panicking and freaking out when fights did not go his way and he was clearly losing his love of the sport. I approached Paola for help and we began using SleepTalk™ in August this year specifically working on his confidence in sparring. After 4 weeks the changes were evident: He was more confident in his training, the panicking and freaking out stopped and he cried a lot less. There were other noticeable changes in his general level of confidence: He was less afraid of spiders and crane flies (which had previously disturbed him) and at a museum trip he stunned us all by volunteering to hold a tarantula in front of 250 people. His creativity and confidence in his studies improved and he soared to the top of his class where he has remained. He became more assertive and courageous in other areas: willingly going into shops on his own and launching himself off a huge zip-wire without hesitation. Within 8 weeks of starting SleepTalk™ his sparring had significantly improved. Two incidents around this time highlighted the change: After being punched whilst sparring with a 20 year old he started to cry but quickly responded when his coach to ‘stop crying and get angry’ and went on to win the next three rounds. His coach commented that he had never seen him fight with such speed and commitment and asked “What have your parents been doing – giving you ox blood for breakfast?” In early December he was awarded a special badge with the words ‘Sparring Champion’ on it for being the ‘most improved’ in sparring. He is now asking us to enter him in national competitions.
I should mention that in line with Paola’s recommendations we simultaneously used SleepTalk™ for our 6 year old daughter whose teacher had told us that she needed more confidence in speaking and performing in front of other people. With Paola’s help we tailored our suggestions to this need and again the changes were noticeable. She has since started piano lessons (something she previously resisted) and loves them, joined a performing dance group and volunteered for a speaking part in the Nativity play where she coped brilliantly when, at the last minute, she was given additional lines to cover for another child.
I have no doubt that SleepTalk™ has produced amazing results for both of my children in a few short months. They have both gained in confidence and ability and are clearly getting more out life. SleepTalk™ has also improved our relationship with the children and each other. The two minutes of love that we give them every night offsets the usual stresses and careless remarks of the day and re-aligns us all to our true feelings for each other. It is a beautiful practice and one that I will continue as long as it remains beneficial.
Julie Powell, Rainham, Kent – used the SleepTalk™ process for her 15 year old daughter who had been suffering from anxiety for many months. As Julie lives apart from the father, she did the SleepTalk™ on her own with both her daughters.
I decided to give SleepTalk™ a go to help my 15 year old daughter Lily be calmer.
I would like to say that it is a most wonderful ‘program’ to follow and has really helped my daughter out in lots of ways. Our only ‘struggle’ was that teenage girls don’t go into quite as deep sleeps as they used to as little girls. But with Paola’s help and slight changes to the criteria, it worked superbly.
In the first month I started to notice a difference in Lily, she was a lot calmer and quietly confident.
I’d also taken to texting Lily every day at school telling her how much I loved her and how beautiful and clever she was. Most mornings she was now waking much calmer and a lot happier, after just 8 weeks of doing the SleepTalk™.
After about 14 weeks, I would say Lily possibly had the biggest change in herself. She is no longer ‘worrying’ about life, she is much calmer and there are hardly any anxious moments. She is really enjoying school (though she already did) she is finding it easier to make new friends and is a lot happier in herself. Lily had stopped having ‘bad’ thoughts: thinking that someone is going to die and that if something good happens then something bad will follow. Overall she had calmed down hugely. She just isn’t anxious anymore.
I would like to say a huge massive thank you to Paola; you are amazing and so very good at your job.
Julie, Lily and Grace Powell
Jackie Perez, Redhill, Surrey – used the SleepTalk™ process for her 6 year old daughter to improve her concentration and confidence. I worked with both parents, however, mum was the main parent doing the SleepTalk™.
I found the concept of SleepTalk interesting and so when Paola was asking for volunteers I jumped at the chance. My daughter finds it hard to concentrate at school and can be quite anxious and so I wanted to see if SleepTalk could help in combination with other things. After a few months it seems that my daughter has responded well to SleepTalk. She is reading more confidently using SleepTalk and Kumon and has been moved up a group in her class and her swimming has improved a great deal and she is now enjoying it. We continue to do the SleepTalk now. Paola has been brilliant along the way, helping with a few teething issues initially as my daughter kept waking up when I starting talking, but we sorted it out and all went well after that. I would certainly recommend SleepTalk.
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HOW I WORK WITH YOU
One-to-one via Skype
I work with parents via Skype, and email.
If both parents can be present then that is great. However, I also work with one parent who can then teach the process to the other parent, if they choose to do so.
A 3-month package which includes 3 x one-hour Skype sessions with support in between via email and telephone calls is only £200.
To book please call me on 020 8660 6022 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org